Added to the Bookshelf – 3/17/13 St. Patty’s Day!

Posted March 17, 2013 by Melissa in IMM, In My Mailbox, Showcase Sunday | 24 Comments

Sharing the week’s bookish news and the books & bookish goodies that I’ve bought, borrowed, won, or been gifted and have added to my bookshelves over the past week!

(Inspired by Mailbox Monday, IMM, Clock Rewinders and the like)

Notes From Melissa:

 I’m hoping to go out to dinner with my sister and her family for St Patty’s Day ( I opted not to host).  What are you guys up to???


It is Saturday afternoon as I write this for tomorrow’s post and I must confess that I am not in much of a Happy St Patty’s Day mood.  Not to burden you all with my life’s story…but as you know I’ve been having an incredibly stressful time of it with my job working 10-15 hour days and then pretty much just crashing on the weekends and focusing on household tasks and other stressful family obligations (I have power of attorney for my 99 year old grandmother and not only manage her complicated  finances but also have a large part in ensuring that she’s cared for properly…which is no simple matter.)  Add to that the fact that we are awaiting results of a biopsy that my sister had last week for a lump that was found…

This blog has continued to suffer–I haven’t written a review in over three weeks… And I don’t have the time that I used to devote to networking and reading/commenting on other blogs.

As if that, wasn’t enough we just found out yesterday that the growths we recently discovered on our kitty Piper are cancerous basel cell tumors that need to be surgically removed under anesthesia – which is complicated by the fact that he may have a heart murmur and also need a cardiology consult and tests prior to going under.  I’m trying not to panic (as some of you my know I lost my Milo to cancer last year). We are told that these are not uncommon and are fully cured with surgical removal.  But obviously incredibly stressful and worrisome none-the-less (not top mention expensive)

Anyway, the point of all of this blathering is that I’d love any tips that you guys can give me.  To be honest I am completely stressed, depressed, and totally burnt out on all ends right now.  How do you all manage your time, manage your stress, better organize your blogging and reviewing?  Life tips, blogging tips, etc are all appreciated!

I wrote a bit of a self pitying rant yesterday and have since decided to hide it…but for those interested feel free to select the blank space above to read.  For the rest, please skip ahead to the good stuff! lol

Recently on Melissa’s Eclectic Bookshelf:


What I Read Last Week:

  • The Collector (Dante Walker #1) – Victoria Scott

      What I Am Reading Today:

      • Watership Down – Richard Adams (audiobook)
      • Sky on Fire (Monument 14 #2) – Emmy Laybourne

        Ongoing Giveaways:

        Around the Interwebs:

        Added to the Bookshelf This Week:

        Clicking on book titles will take you to Goodreads.

        For Review:

        Wasteland – 
        I’ll Follow the Moon –  (Illustrator)

        Snowy White World to Save –  

        Nook Freebies:

        Promise (Soul Savers #1) by 

        Strong Enough to Love (Jackson #1.6) by  
        Become (Desolation #1) by 

        That’s all for me this week!

        What new goodies have arrived on your doorstep?
        Leave me a link in the comments and I’ll come check out your post!

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        24 responses to “Added to the Bookshelf – 3/17/13 St. Patty’s Day!

        1. Got to love the freebies. The freebies are a great way to find new authors. I hope you like Wasteland a lot more than I did. Come check out my haul as well.


        2. Oh no, I’m so sorry to hear you’re having a hard time at the moment. I really hope everything goes well with your kitty Piper, and that your sister’s test results are good and nothing to worry about. *big hug*

          I think coping with stress and blogging is hard. I’ve been pretty stressed about work and some complicated VISA issues at the moment(my husband isn’t British, so we have all the delightful immigration bureaucracy to deal with). I’ve found the best way to deal with it is to remember that blogging is a hobby. The blog is for you more than anything else. If you don’t post for a week or a month or even more, if you lose some followers then it doesn’t matter. Your friends will always be there, and people who care and enjoy your posts will always be there. Only blog when you want to, when it’s fun, and about the things that YOU want to say. When you can convince yourself not to worry about regular posting, it relieves so much stress, and you’ll probably find that you feel like you want to post more when you’re less stressed anyway. I think I have a tendency to over-emphasise the importance of things in my head. If you’re like that too, then sometimes it’s good to sit back and think – which things are actually important? – which things are my paid/contracted job, which things keep me alive and warm, and which things are about family and friends? Those are the vital things, and other things might be important to me too, but I shouldn’t get so worried about them.

          That was a bit rambling… hope it helped a little bit! And I really hope you have a good week, and that you manage to read some good books to take your mind off things for a while. 🙂

          • Thanks Victoria–very good points..I think that sometimes I can be my own worst critic when it comes to this blog and it is so hard for me to let go a bit…but I know I need to make that effort to let go of the less important things so I have more energy to focus on the things that are.

        3. Hey girl! I’m so sorry to hear about everything that you’ve got on your plate right now! I love blogging and I really love being on a schedule, so I try to be schedule about a month ahead on reviews and posts. But I also know that for me, blogging is supposed to be fun, and sometimes fun has to take a backseat to the heavier things in life. Don’t let the blogging part of everything get you down. Take care of what needs to be taken care of. Blogging will be here when things settle down a little more. I don’t know if you’re religious at all, but I’ll be praying for you, your family, and your kitty!

          Sandy @ Somewhere Only We Know

        4. We all go through ups and downs in life and I know what it’s like to care for an elderly family member, or be responsible for an elderly family member. It’s difficult! When I was going through my stress in my life, I took a break from my blog. I actually stepped away from it for awhile, and returned when I was ready. I would say do what works for you. During stressful times sometimes it’s good to use your blog as an outlet, but when it becomes too much of a burden then it won’t work. I’m sure taking a few weeks off won’t hurt you, and your readers will be here when you return.

          Hope everything works out for you, and life turns back to some kind of normalcy for you soon! Have a great week!!

        5. First *Hugs and a cup of calming tea* I am glad you decided to let others handle today’s dinner even if it means a restaurant. I am going to keep Piper and your sister in my prayers. Honestly I do not know how you are juggling it all and a part of me wants to say cut back on your blog posts and post when you can..but I think you truly enjoy this. I am not sure about your work situation, and whether or not you can talk to them, but something has to give…you cannot continue at this pace. With all the hours you work can you delegate some ..for example get a maid to clean every other week? If you ever need to vent or just talk about anything facebook message me and I will give you my cell phone # and you can make fun of my South Jersey accent! The Sunday Post

        6. First of all I’m glad that the books came from me and I hope you love them.

          It really sounds like you have a lot on your plate. I think you’re doing pretty good posting at all with all that going on! I have my fingers crossed that the kitty stuff works out and isn’t as bad as it could be. It just sounds like you have a ton going on. I guess I’m with Kimba about delegating a bit. I know that it’s hard to do so, but sometimes it’s necessary. As far as the blog goes, just do what you can I guess. It might be more work than it’s worth but you could always get some guest reviewers so you feel better about having SOME reviews go up. The issue with that is unless you actually add them to your blog you still have to format it all and stuff.

          I have been feeling overwhelmed, but it’s nothing like what you have going on. Sometimes we just have to let your blogging slack a bit while we deal with real life. Real life is always more important!

        7. I am so sorry for all you’re going through right now and can totally relate. I’m a only child and both are my parents have serious health issues. Caring for them as best I can certainly takes it’s toll.

          And I am so, so sorry about Piper’s health issues. My Tara, in addition to being diabetic, was diagnosed last summer with a splenic mass and congestive heart failure. She’s on a bunch of meds for her heart, and we’re having to treat the possible cancer holistically because her heart could never withstand an operation. We’re almost at the 7 month anniversary of her diagnosis and we hang in there one day at a time…I guess that’s all any of us can do.

          Blogging wise, I try to format and schedule posts at least 7-10 days in advance. That way, if real life rears it’s ugly head, the blog can take care of itself for awhile.

          Take care and contact me anytime if you need to vent!

        8. Bea

          *HUGS* You have a lot going on right now. I agree about taking time away from the blog for a bit, whether you take a hiatus or just cut back on what you post. Also, are there are any local groups or services that can help you out? Meals on Wheels is a great help and if you’re part of a church, see what they can do. Maybe find someone you can talk to – a priest, social worker, etc.

          I’ll keep my fingers crossed for Piper. I’ve been fortunate with my cats; they’ve been pretty healthy. Sending lots of healing vibes your way and Piper’s way.

        9. Wasteland and Become both look really interesting! I also finished The Collector this past week and I’m still not sure how I feel, I mean I liked that Dante and I use the same vocabulary (unfortunately =/) But there was just something missing *sigh*

          Also I hope Piper gets better!!

          Emily @ Falling For YA
          My STS & Birthday Giveaway

        10. I am so very sorry to hear about all the things you are going through – I wish there was a way to help ease the stress away. I will definitely be thinking of you and your kitty too. It’s hard, but somehow, we always manage to pull out better and stronger! Sending many hugs your way!
          Great books this week – those kid books look sweet! And thanks for the Victoria Dahl freebie – she’s always great for a quick pick me up, lol!
          Hope you find some time for yourself soon! xo

        11. Aww hun sorry that you’re going through a rough time. And so sad about your cat too! 🙁 ‘y sister’s dog passed away and she said the best thing she did was get another–not to replace, but it helps get through it nonetheless. But you know, your blog is not more important than your life, family, and health so don’t feel bad about the lack of reviews we all have lives to live and we’ll still be here and ready when times are less stressful for you! <3 *hugs*

        12. I’m so sorry to hear of this! Hugs and cuddles. I know it can be stressful dealing with an elderly relative and then having a sick kitty and a long work schedule on top of that can wear you down. Frist of all, it is completely okay to take a hiatus from blogging. This is a hobby and if it’s stressing you out and feels like a chore rather than a joy, then perhaps you should take a couple weeks off. We’re all still going to be here when you feel ready to return. Take a break if you need to.

          Secondly, have you talked with your hubby about this? (I’ve never seen you mention kids before but I know you’re married.) Ask him if he can pick up an extra house chore or errand. Do you have other family members nearby? It’s okay to ask for help and see if you can free up an hour or two for just lying in bed and staring at the ceiling. (I do a great deal of ceiling watching when I feel stressed. The ceiling is very cooperative.) I’m sorry to hear about your sister and I hope she gets a clean bill of health. I hope Piper gets the same. I know how expensive a sick pet can get. I hope they both are okay.

          It’s fine to shuffle things around and maybe lay some things aside when real life gets hard. It’s real life and that happens sometimes. See if some family members and friends can’t lend a helping hand and remember that while life is stressful now, it can’t last forever. Good luck!

        13. I hope you had a lovely, relaxing St Patrick’s Day, Melissa.

          Don’t stress about the blog, just focus on your family and also looking after yourself. Never, ever feel bad about your priorities, we all have them and sometimes life just throws everything into the box at once.

          Do the things you need to do and take care xx

        14. First of all, I’m so sorry for all the stress you’ve been going through. I’m sending all the positive thoughts I can your way that everything turns out well for your sister and Piper. I’m no stranger to real life stress, especially over the past few months and I’m currently going through a divorce. You just have to take the time you need, Melissa. Don’t worry about the blog and losing followers or people being mad because you’re not visiting/commenting. Those who matter will understand what you’re going through, or, if they don’t know what you’re going through, will figure out that you must be because you’re usually a pretty consistent blogger. Just do what you can, when you can. The blog should be a pleasure, not an obligation. Bottom line, take care of yourself and your family. Real life is the most important, after all. I hope I was able to help a little bit. =O)

          Enjoy your books and keep your thoughts positive. *hugs*

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